Build The Life You Want Instead Of Trying To Escape The Life You Have
I promise you’ll get much better results
We all have something about our current lives that we try to get away from. Some of us might hate our jobs, so we live for the weekend. Some of us may hate our neighborhood or city, so we take a vacation whenever we can.
But we all know that we’ll soon be back to the job we hate or the city we hate. We never seem to be able to escape for good.
And the reason why is because we focus all our energy on escaping. What we should be focusing on is what we want not what we don’t want. It’s like going to book a train ticket and telling the booking clerk where you don’t want to go. They need to know where you want to go not where you don’t want to go. You’ll be stuck at the station.
It’s the same with life. If you don’t know what kind of life you want, you’ll be stuck with the one you already have.
I often see posts on reddit from people that hate their jobs. They say they want to quit, but can’t. The problem is that they don’t have any idea what sort of job they want. Some say they want to start a business instead, but again, they don’t know exactly what they want to it.
When I lived in London I loved it there. Yet people asked me almost every Friday if I was heading out of the city for the weekend. They’d always look baffled when I said I wasn’t. They were always going somewhere or other. They lived for the weekends when they could leave the city.
So, why didn’t I leave as well? The reason is simple.
I moved to London because I loved it. For me, it’s one of the greatest cities in the world.
I dreamed of moving there for many years and eventually did.
Why on earth would I want to get away from it?
The problem is that we often give little thought to where we live or what jobs we do. We just get on with our lives as they currently are. Whether we like current lives or not. It’s just what we do.
What is your ideal life?
Instead of trying to escape our current lives, what if we instead set about building our ideal lives? Wouldn’t that be something worth doing?
We can start by taking some time out to think deeply about what we want. Where would we like to live? What work would we like to do? What friends would we like to have? What adventures do we want in our lives?
Think big. Don’t dismiss ideas because you think they’re not possible to achieve. I’ve achieved many things in my life that I used to think were impossible.
Anything is possible if we set our minds to it.
Don’t rush this. Spend some time over a few weeks to really figure out what your dream life is. Once you’ve done that, it’s time to plan your route from where you are now to your new destination — your dream life.
Break it down into different parts. Then set goals for the next month, the next 6 months, the next year, even the next 5 years. Changing your life takes time. Don’t expect your dream life to suddenly appear tomorrow morning.
It takes work.
But when you get to your destination you’ll realize that it was all worth it.
So, what’s your dream life?
I’ve already got mine, but over the last year or so I’ve come to realize that there are some options to upgrade it even further. The pandemic has felt like a setback in many ways, so it’s now time to move forward again.
I’ve already started setting my goals for next year. I will expand on these in another post over the weekend. These are exciting times for me. I’m looking forward to some new challenges and to building an even more awesome life.