If Someone Else Is Successful, It’s Proof That You Can Be As Well

Stop demonizing successful people

Rise above the crowd. Photo by author.

There’s a clear trend these days of trying to bring down successful people. That’s not good for your own chances of success. Instead, realize that if they are successful, then you can be too.

I remember a time many years ago when I started learning to drive. I was 17 years old and had had my first two driving lessons. It seemed beyond difficult and, based on those two lessons, I thought it was something I would never master.

Then something odd happened that changed everything. I was walking through the village when I saw a boy from my school driving a car. He was around my age, so he must have only recently learned to drive and pass his test.

So, what’s so odd about that? It was my reaction that was the odd part. Instead of just seeing another driver, what I saw was a boy just like me.

I knew this boy. He lived in the same village. He went to the same school. He could drive. That’s when I had my “lightbulb” moment. If this boy could learn to drive then so could I.

I then started to notice all the other people from my village that could drive. And what did they all have in common? They were ordinary, everyday people just like me. If they could all drive, then it was obvious that I could.

I had much more confidence in my next lesson because I knew it was just a matter of learning and practicing. A couple of months later I passed my test.

But it’s not just about driving. Almost anything you want to do, you can guarantee that others just like you have already done it. All you have to do is copy what they did.

When you were a baby and started learning to walk you fell onto your butt thousands of times. But did that stop you? No. You saw that others could walk and copied them until you got it right.

How about learning English, or whatever your mother tongue is? You didn’t give up because it was difficult. You kept at it.

So why do we find success so difficult to achieve as adults? All we have to do is copy others, just like we did as babies and children.

But that’s not what many do. What they do instead is try to knock down those that are successful. Maybe this is because of a lack of confidence, but I can guarantee you that you’re only harming yourself.

If successful people are so horrible and evil in your eyes, then why would you ever want to become successful? It’s that attitude that will lead you to an unsuccessful and unfulfilled life.

Instead, why not look at them just as I looked at that boy driving many years ago. What if you looked at them and said…

Those successful men and women are just like me. They’re no smarter than I am. If they can do it, so can I.

Imagine how that thought would change your world.

Starting right now, think of some area in your life that you would like more success in. Or at least even some success. Now think of others that already have the success that you crave.

What do you notice about them if you look closely? They’re just like you and me. They’re nothing special at all. Of course, there are plenty of very gifted and talented people in the world, but the vast majority are very ordinary folks.

They were brought up just like you and me. They went to similar schools. They got similar exam results. There’s nothing so remarkable about them that means they can achieve success while you can’t.

From today onwards, look at successful as the ordinary people they really are. If you want a similar success, just copy them. It’s not rocket science. It’s mostly pretty straightforward.

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